March 22, 2018

More on the Itty Bitty Clitty and Breast Cancer

Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer, Sexy Satrudays, breast cancer, breast cancer and sexual health, intimacy and breast cacncer



Following on the thread started last week about Cliteracy and the possibilities for women to experience more intimate and sexual pleasure through their clitoris, here are some additional facts and thoughts ~

  • All babies have the same genital tissue when they are conceived. It’s after about 12 weeks of gestation that the differentiation into a penis or labia begins. The clitoris and the penis are the same materials assembled differently, and the differentiation begins as a result of hormonal flows. The book The Female Brain by Luanne Brizendine contains some great information about how this development begins and the different phases of development for males and females.
  • The clitoris has all the parts a penis has ~ a glans, a foreskin (also known as the hood), erectile tissue and a small shaft. And the clitoris swells when aroused and becomes engorged. You know that sensation of tightness and swollenness? That’s all the erectile tissue of the clitoral system becoming engorged.
  • The only purpose of the clitoris is pleasure. It has nothing to do with reproduction. Pleasure only, and it is the only part of the body with this sole function.
  • Only about one fourth of the clitoris is visible outside the body, and the rest is inside. In addition to the clitoral head (also known as the itty bitty clitty), the hood and the shaft, the clitoris is composed of the urethral sponge, erectile tissue, glands, vestibular bulbs and the clitoral legs. Altogether this is called the clitoral system and some experts believe that the G Spot is also part of the clitoris.
  • There are different kinds of orgasms and a clitoral orgasm is the easiest for most women to achieve. Most women are not able to achieve orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Women who know this and know their clitoris can communicate what feels good to their partner and enhance their pleasure.
  • Clitoral stimulation and pleasure varies with each woman. Some prefer soft and gentle touch and others prefer a lot of pressure. What feels good also changes during the arousal cycle. Don’t assume that you know what it takes and that it will be the same every time. Take your time to explore and get to know your unique clitoris. You can even map areas that are more responsive than others, and when during the arousal cycle. If you take the time to explore yourself alone, you’ll have a much better time educating and guiding your lover.
  • The word clitoris is from the Greek word for “key.” As you explore and begin to understand this extraordinary source of pleasure, you may find that it is a key to unlocking your pleasure possibilities.
  • Take your time to explore the entire clitoral system and ways to stimulate it. You’ll be very glad you did!

I urge you to explore and include the clitoris in your personal pleasure plan. With attention and focus you will learn what brings you pleasure and this can be a wonderful addition or alternative to penetrative genital sex play.

© 2014 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.
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This blog is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer.

The “C” Word ~ No, Not Cancer!

Barbara Musser, Sexy AFter Cancer, Sexy Saturdays, breast cancer, breast cancer and sexuality, breast cancer and sexual health, breast cancer and intimacy, sex and cancer



The “C” word stands for a lot of things ~ cancer, communication and in the realm of intimacy and sexuality, it stands for cunt, cunnilingus and clitoris, to name a few. This and the next post will focus on the clitoris, which deserves attention and enlightenment.  Once breast cancer is in our life story, the impact on our intimate and sexual lives is profound and many women grieve the changes to their sex life. Many think that there’s little point in attempting to be sexual, especially if sex wasn’t all that great before diagnosis and treatment. This is the reason for my work, research and teaching. I aim to provide the ingredients for a happy and healthy intimate and sexual life after diagnosis.

The clitoris can be part of our intimate and sex play and doesn’t seem to be as affected by treatments as other areas of our genitals. This is great news! And there isn’t much information available about this. There is so much to know about this amazing body part, and my purpose is to educate, inspire and shed light on some new possibilities for pleasure. I hope that after reading this you will include the clitoris in your personal pleasure plan.

There is an art exhibition going on currently in New York called “Cliteracy”, and the artist is Sophia Wallace. It’s a mixed media project designed to “expose the irony of society’s obsession and ignorance of female sexuality.  Cliteracy, 100 Natural Laws (2012) includes a monumental wall of texts which challenge phallocentric biases in science, law, philosophy, politics and the art world. Wallace’s focus on the clitoris and female pleasure serves to question and counteract the history of misinformation regarding women’s bodies and the concomitant oppression therein.”

Here are some inspiring clitoral facts and thoughts. Let’s begin with a statement from the artist Sophia Wallace: “The clitoris is not a button, it’s an iceberg.” Some of these ideas also come from my colleague Pamela Madsen who is also a sex educator.

  • If you want to address the clitoris, labia and vagina together, vulva is the all-encompassing term. Not Volvo, vulva, even though it may have many miles on its odometer. J
  • 50-75% of women who have orgasms need to have their clitoris touched (clitoral stimulation). Experiencing orgasms through clitoral stimulation is a great way to experience pleasure if your vaginal tissue has any atrophy.
  • The clitoris is only partially visible to the eye. The entire clitoris is close to four inches in length (similar to the average non-erect penis), but three fourths of its is hidden from view within a female’s body. It’s buried treasure. Think of all the pleasure potential in the entire region. Have you explored it?
  • The clitoris grows throughout a woman’s life. It can become 2.5 times larger after menopause than it was when the woman was a teenager. This is great news for those of us who have experienced instant menopause as a result of breast cancer treatments. This is not to say that pleasure depends on the size of the clitoris; however it contains 8,000 nerve endings, which are deliciously sensitive. By the way, this is twice the number of nerve endings in the glans of a penis. Lucky us!

More to come in the next blog… in the meantime please feel free to ask any questions you have or share any facts you may know. We are all teachers for each other.

© 2014 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.
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This blog is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer.