March 22, 2018

The Second Tool


Continuing with the 10 Tools and Power Tools for Bringing Back Your Sexy After Cancer:

#2. Forgiveness. I’ve heard it said that forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better yesterday. What this means to me is that what has happened cannot be changed, so there’s not much value in hanging on to any pain, fear, judgment or blame associated with it. Easier said than done though, right?

What’s there for you to forgive? Nothing, you say? Here are a few ideas:

  • Your body for getting cancer
  • Your doctors for altering or removing body parts or giving other treatments that have radically changed your body
  • Your breast/s for how they look now
  • God or whatever spiritual principals you follow that would allow such a thing to happen to you
  • Yourself
  • Anything else that comes to mind

There are many forgiveness practices. I recently interviewed Marianne Williamson (author of many NYTimes best selling books including “A Woman’s Worth”, “Return to Love”, “Everyday Grace”). She is a student of A Course in Miracles, which is a powerful spiritual program. She said that forgiveness is the foundation for spiritual health and is a form of spiritual medicine. It is every bit as important that we take our spiritual medicine as the medicine prescribed by our doctor. Yet many of us don’t do this.

A forgiveness practice is a wonderful way to begin. The key is to find one that appeals to you and then to use it. One that I like is a Ho’oponopono chant for forgiveness:

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The tradition is to play some soft background music and then repeat the words like a chant. Repeat it as many times as feels right to you.

You may find that as you begin this or another practice, that other areas for forgiveness rise to the surface of your awareness. Respect your inner knowing about what you need in this area.

Remember that forgiveness is a process, not a one-time event. Be patient and gentle with yourself as you undertake this practice. May it bring you some inner peace!

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.
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